The Perfect Gift

Once again, welcome to this long-anticipated month of the year – a month of celebrating, festivity and joy! When asked what makes this season so special, many people agree that they enjoy giving gifts to people they value, reminding us of the adage, “Tis better to give than receive.” All too often, though, we agonize over coming up with “just the right gift,” adding stress and tension to an already hectic month.

Inquiry

  • What constitutes a “perfect gift?”
  • Where and how can you reduce holiday stress by giving the gift of yourself?s
  • What is the gift you most want to give yourself this holiday season?
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Giving Your Ideas Wings

There is a powerful idea that has been swimming around in your mind for a while now and you have now been officially FOUND OUT!  You want to make it happen, but you haven’t taken action yet.  What’s holding you back from bringing your idea to life?  What support do you need? What sort of difference will this make in your world?

Exercise

Commit to fleshing out your idea and do the research to determine if this is really what you are longing to pursue.  Spend at least 15 minutes each day this week giving the idea space and possibility.  You might journal or get coached around it or just take the first action step. You can do this!

Remember: as you give your own ideas wings, you will create more space in your coaching for your client’s powerful ideas to take flight. You go, Coach!

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Best Friends

Remember your best friend from school? What was it that made him or her your “best friend?” It might have been how the person made you feel when you spent time together.  Or maybe they were always ready with an enthusiastic “Yes!” to whatever activity you suggested.

Exercise

List the traits you loved about your best friend (e.g., humorous, supportive, loyal, always looking out for you, empathetic, compassionate, etc.).

Now, become your own best friend! Say “yes” to as many ideas as possible. Really take your higher self’s wisdom to heart.  Be conscious of all the ways in which you make an effort to do right by others.  And most importantly, be willing to forgive yourself when you stumble. Take these “tumbles” with a grain of salt, and share a good laugh about it with your new best friend!

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Playing Big

Are you or your clients playing small?  As coaches, our job is to hold the space for our clients to play big!  Where has your coaching gotten a little “flat” lately?  Are you getting lost in a client’s small “a” agenda?  Is it something else?  Take some time to evaluate your recent sessions to see whether playing small has crept into the coaching (either in you or your clients).

Exercise

This month, commit to “kicking your coaching up a notch” by consciously noting the field your client is playing in and whether they are playing small.  If they are, commit to calling them forth. Supporting them in playing big is why they hired you – accept nothing less from them OR yourself!

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R-E-S-P-E-C-T

R-E-S-P-E-C-T. It’s not just an Aretha Franklin song. When we respect ourselves or our clients, some would say we’re being (to name a few) honest, loving, caring, generous, patient, kind, responsible – and that’s just for starters. People “stand taller” and feel better about themselves when they act from integrity, including respecting themselves and others.

Exercise

Make a list of words that define “respect” for you. Spend some time with this list before you begin coaching each day. After a week, review the impact on your coaching. Journal about what you notice – what were the most empowering shifts you experienced? What different choices did you make?

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Acknowledging Your Skills

Trainings, training and more training.  Most coaches LOVE the process of learning, exploring and expanding their horizons.  While there are certainly endless opportunities to “grow” your coaching, when was the last time you sat down and made a list of all the wonderful skills that you possess right NOW? As coaches, our focus is often so fixed on future improvement, we forget to acknowledge all that is present in us at THIS moment in our journeys.

Exercise

Spend some time making a list of the skills you have at your disposal TODAY.  Stay with it until you have at least 50 skills down on paper – you’ll be surprised how little time it takes! You might even realize that you’re amazingly talented and pretty cool right now!  Think about how the skills you ALREADY possess serve you and your clients each and every day.  Celebrate the amazing coach you already are, no matter where you are on your journey!

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Changing Your Coaching Environment

Ever notice what happens to your coaching when you tidy up your surroundings? I guarantee you it changes! No matter what you shift – sometimes even just clearing off your desk or moving to another part of the room (or house) is enough to infuse your coaching with a new energy!

Exercise

Try this four-step exercise to see how changes in your coaching environment will affect your coaching:

  1. Simply observe your coaching environment.
  2. Set your intention.  For example, “I want to punch up my coaching” or “I need more peace and to be more grounded when I am coaching.”
  3. Choose or organize your surroundings to support this intention.  Maybe a vase of fresh flowers would bring nature’s tranquility to your next session.  Or you might consider moving your coaching to a room with a sunnier vista so the increased light will power up the coaching.  Figure out what changes you want to make to your coaching environment, and try them out.
  4. Make a note of any changes you see in your coaching over the next month
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Don’t Forget to Laugh

When was the last time you laughed?  Strange question you ask?  Not so.  As coaches we are so present for the ups and downs of our client’s lives that we sometimes forget to exercise the “humor muscle” – our ability to shift perspectives, laugh and BE a bit off-the-wall (with ourselves AND our clients).  What would be available for our clients if we asked some out-of-left-field questions in our coaching?

Some examples:  What would your living room lamp think about that? What does your thumb have to say about that? I want you to stand up and smile for one minute, no stopping, keep smiling!  Now what’s here?

Exercise

Notice the number of times you laugh this week.   Commit to bringing more humor in your day each day.  Come up with five “funny” powerful questions and see what shows up in the space for your clients as you “play” with them.  Oh, and don’t forget to have some fun while you complete this assignment!

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